\u201cRape is a horrific crime, and rapists are despised\u201d…. supposedly. Hopefully, that line causes you some outrage\u2014a little indignation. If it didn\u2019t, well, then, case in point.<\/p>\n
The problem is that we pay a lot of lip service to how abhorrent rape is, however we as a society have a tendency to systematically treat it with levity, if we don\u2019t just sweep it under the proverbial rug. Rape pervades the music we enjoy, the jokes we laugh at, the media entertainment we enjoy, everything. And we don\u2019t even notice it anymore.<\/i> What could be stronger evidence than our general desensitization to the atrocities of rape?<\/p>\n
Defining rape culture<\/strong><\/p>\n According to the Marshall University Women\u2019s Center<\/span><\/a>, \u201cRape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sexual violence against women is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture.\u201d By definition, we live in a rape culture society.<\/p>\n Rape culture is perpetuated through the use of misogynistic language, the objectification of women\u2019s bodies, and the glamorization of sexual violence, thereby creating a society that disregards women\u2019s rights and safety. Rape culture affects every woman.\u00a0 <\/span>The rape of one woman is a degradation, terror, and limitation to all women. Most women and girls limit their behavior because of the existence of rape. Most women and girls live in fear of rape. Men, in general, do not. That\u2019s how rape functions as a powerful means by which the whole female population is held in a subordinate position to the whole male population, even though many men don\u2019t rape, and many women are never victims of rape. This cycle of fear is the legacy of rape culture.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Convinced yet? Zerlina Maxwell asked in her TIME magazine art<\/span><\/a>icle:<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n Is 1 in 5 American women surviving rape or attempted rape considered a cultural norm? Is 1 in 6 men being abused before the age of 18 a cultural norm? These statistics are not just shocking, they represent real people. Yet, these millions of survivors and allies don\u2019t raise their collective voices to educate America about our culture of rape because of fear. Rape culture is a real and serious, and we need to talk about it. Simply put, feminists want equality for everyone, and that begins with physical safety.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Consider this, too. According to an analysis<\/span><\/a> by the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN), 97% of rapists never spend a single day in jail for their crimes. But statistics take the emotion out of the heart-wrenching facts. So, Maxwell also detailed her own tragic encounter with rape and rape culture.<\/p>\n \u201cYou were drinking, what did you expect?\u201d<\/p>\n Those were the first words that I heard when I went to someone I trusted for support after my roommate\u2019s boyfriend raped me eight years ago. When I came forward to report what happened, instead of support, many well-meaning people close to me asked me questions about what I was wearing, if I had done something to cause the assault, or if I had been drinking. These questions about my choices the night of my assault \u2014 as opposed to the choices made by my rapist \u2014 were in some ways as painful as the violent act itself. I had stumbled upon rape culture: a culture in which sexual violence is the norm and victims are blamed for their own assaults. \u201cVictims are blamed for their own assaults.\u201d I initially found that hard to believe, too. We are an intelligent, well-developed, c<\/i>ivilized society; we would never blame the victim, right?<\/p>\n Wrong.<\/p>\n Voices of rape culture<\/strong><\/p>\n \u25cf\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>The cold, foggy weather is like a rape, and ”if it’s inevitable, just relax and enjoy it.” -Clayton Williams, Texas gubernatorial nominee (March 1990)<\/p>\n \u25cf\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>\u201cI would hope that when a woman goes into a physician [for an abortion], with a rape issue, that that physician will indeed ask her about perhaps her marriage, was this pregnancy caused by normal relations in a marriage, or was it truly caused by rape.\u201d-Chuck Winder, Idaho candidate for US Senate (March 2012)<\/p>\n \u25cf\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>\u201cIt seems to me, from what I understand from doctors, [pregnancies from rape are] really rare. If it\u2019s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down.\u201d<\/span> -Todd Akin, Missouri Senate (March 2012)<\/span><\/p>\n \u25cf\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>\u201cI struggled with it myself for a long time, but I came to realize that life is that gift from God, and I think even when life begins in that horrible situation of rape, that it is something that God intended to happen.\u201d <\/span>\u00a0<\/span>–<\/span>Richard Mourdock, Indiana candidate for the U.S. Senate (Oct. 2012)<\/p>\n \u25cf\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span>\u201cSome girls rape easy\u201d -Roger Rivard, a state representative in Wisconsin (Oct. 2012)<\/p>\n \u25cf\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>Rape is just \u201canother method of conception.\u201d -Paul Ryan (January 2013)<\/p>\n There are more, but I can\u2019t go on. It\u2019s too repulsive. Consider this, though: If our politicians, representatives of us and of our country, make these \u201cspeech errors,\u201d even after careful pruning and refining their every word, what about the rest of us?<\/p>\n Pardon another rant against Robin Thicke\u2019s \u201cBlurred Lines,\u201d but rape victims themselves call the lyrics of the song \u201cfrom the mouths of rapists.\u201d<\/span><\/a> That\u2019s right. The blockbuster song exemplifies rapes. Please check out the link, and then delete the song from your playlists if you can.<\/p>\n Think about Law and Order SVU<\/em>. Granted, it\u2019s nice to see the bad guys get caught and thrown behind bars, but it gives us the misconception that a) rape only happens to women b) rapists are usually strangers c) rapists don\u2019t wander our streets, because rapists get caught, and rapists get convicted.The fact that we are so disillusioned and so very desensitized to rape lends credence to the fact that we do<\/i> live in a rape culture, no matter how much we hate to believe it.<\/p>\n Rape culture is when…<\/strong><\/p>\n Maxwell created a Twitter hashtag #RapeCultureIsWhen<\/span><\/a> to \u201cspark a public dialogue about rape culture and shift the conversation away from the myths that shame so many survivors into silence. This conversation is meant to be a tool to educate people about what rape culture is, how to spot it, and how to combat it…. The following statements are made up of contributions to the #RapeCultureIsWhen hashtag, as well as the myriad personal stories of survivors with the courage to speak out:\u201d<\/p>\n Rape culture is when women who come forward are questioned about what they were wearing.<\/p>\n Rape culture is when survivors who come forward are asked, \u201cWere you drinking?\u201d<\/p>\n Rape culture is when people say, \u201cShe was asking for it.\u201d<\/p>\n Rape culture is when the mainstream media<\/span><\/a> mourns the end of the convicted Steubenville rapists\u2019 football careers and does not mention the young girl who was victimized.<\/p>\n Rape culture is when cyberbullies take pictures of sexual assaults and harass their victims online after the fact, which in the cases of Audrie Pott and Rehtaeh Parsons<\/span><\/a> tragically ended in their suicides.<\/p>\n Rape culture is when, in 31 states, rapists can legally sue for child custody,<\/span><\/a> if the rape results in pregnancy.<\/p>\n Rape culture is when college campus advisers tasked with supporting the student body, shame survivors who report their rapes. (Annie Clark, a campus activist, says an administrator at the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill told her when she reported her rape, \u201cWell\u2026 Rape is like football<\/span><\/a>, if you look back on the game, and you\u2019re the quarterback, Annie\u2026 is there anything you would have done differently?\u201d)<\/p>\n Rape culture is when colleges are more concerned with getting sued by assailants than by supporting survivors. (Or at Occidental College, where students and administrators who advocated for survivors were terrorized for speaking out<\/span><\/a> against the school\u2019s insufficient reporting procedures.)<\/p>\n Maxwell advises that we stop teaching women how \u201cnot to get raped\u201d<\/span><\/a> and start teaching men not to rape. <\/i>Because that\u2019s <\/i>rape culture. <\/i><\/p>\n The Marshall University Women\u2019s Center similarly includes these societal norms as examples of rape culture:<\/p>\n \u25cf\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>Blaming the victim (\u201cShe asked for it!\u201d)<\/p>\n\n
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