When a 94-year-old ex-president gropes your backside, is it sexual assault, sexual harassment, inappropriate touching or what? As women, at long last, feel confident enough and free enough to tell what has happened to them, and as we try to understand the scope of what has been happening for as long as men and women have existed, it seems that we need a better vocabulary to describe these situations. Fortunately, there is the Violence Against Women Lexicon,<\/a> a resource created by the Centre for Research & Education on Violence Against Women & Children, based in Ontario, Canada.<\/p>\n The Lexicon offers a compendium of terminology, from \u201cAbandonment\u201d to \u201cYouth Violence,\u201d sourced from a wide variety of organizations that work with survivors of abuse and violence of all varieties. Much of what has been reported recently has been lumped under the vague term \u201csexual misconduct.\u201d But there are better, more precise words, and they\u2019re listed with detailed descriptions in the Lexicon.<\/p>\n Here are some of the terms included in the Lexicon. I\u2019ve selected them [with edits for length] not to be comprehensive — or prurient — but to illustrate that there are nuances and degrees along the spectrum. \u00a0I\u2019ve focused less on commonly understood terms, such as rape, and more on terms that are often thrown about without clear definitions, or on those that give precision to specific kinds of behaviors, or on\u00a0 terms that I didn\u2019t know existed. Some of the terms overlap, perhaps reflecting the lack of consistency in calling abuses by agreed-upon names. Also, in this lexicon, they focus on the abuse of women, but they apply to male victims, as well.<\/p>\n You\u2019re going to cringe at some of these, and — unfortunately — you\u2019re going to recognize many of them as describing some of the abuses we\u2019ve been reading about lately. These terms would be useful, I think, in helping women, healthcare professionals, news reporters, commentators, and law enforcement personnel to be more accurate in defining what has occurred. For a complete\u2014and very disheartening\u2014list of terms about the vast varieties of abuses that continue to run rampant in modern culture, please take a look at the full Lexicon.<\/p>\n Abusive sexual contact<\/strong>: Intentional touching, either directly or through the clothing, of the genitalia, anus, groin, breast, inner thigh, or buttocks of any person without his or her consent, or of a person who is unable to consent or refuse. [9]<\/a><\/p>\n Aggravated sexual assault<\/strong>: A sexual assault that involves an injury to the victim or one in which her life is endangered.<\/a>[15]<\/a><\/p>\n Child\/Youth sexual abuse: <\/strong>A person under the age of 18 years old who has been involved in a sexual act with a person in a position of trust and authority by age, strength, or intelligence, including acts such as touching, fondling, exposing oneself, participation in prostitution and any participation or viewing of pornography. [12]<\/a> Any sexual contact with a child or any activity undertaken with a sexual purpose. It can include genital fondling, digital penetration, or an invitation to sexually touch the perpetrator. [28]<\/a><\/p>\n Coercive sexual initiation<\/strong>: The use of persistent coercive strategies (i.e., psychological and emotional manipulation, verbal persuasion, or physical tactics) to initiate sexual contact\u2026In some studies, sexual coercion includes the use of alcohol or drugs to decrease the victim\u2019s inhibitions to obtain sexual contact\u2026Other studies narrow the definition to include physical tactics such as continual attempts to sexually arouse the victim and removal of clothing.<\/p>\n Consent<\/strong>: Agreeing to sexual activity \u2013 for example, kissing, touching, intercourse \u2013 with another person.\u00a0 Consent is voluntary.\u00a0 Even if you consent to sexual activity, you can still change your mind (decide you want to stop).\u00a0 Without permission (consent), it is sexual assault.<\/a>[35]<\/a><\/p>\n Cyber Misogyny: <\/strong>The various forms of gendered hatred, harassment, and abusive behaviour\u00a0targeted at women and girls on the Internet. [89]<\/a><\/p>\n Dating violence:<\/strong> \u00a0Abuse or mistreatment that occurs between \u201cdating partners\u201d, individuals who are having \u2013 or may be moving towards \u2013 an intimate relationship.1<\/a> Dating abuse or dating violence is defined as the perpetration or threat of an act of violence by at least one member of an unmarried couple on the other member within the context of dating or courtship. [21]<\/a><\/p>\n Digital Dating Abuse:<\/strong> When one partner in an intimate relationship uses technology (e.g. cell phone) and social media to harass or control the other. [89]<\/a><\/p>\n Drug Facilitated Sexual Assault:<\/strong> When alcohol or other drugs are used to sedate or incapacitate a person in order to perpetrate sexual assault.\u00a0Proactive \u2013 a perpetrator puts a drug into a victim\u2019s drink or gives a victim alcohol until she becomes inebriated and incapacitated. Opportunistic \u2013 a perpetrator targets a person who is already intoxicated or incapacitated. [83]<\/a><\/p>\n Emotional abuse:<\/strong> Includes verbal attacks, such as yelling, screaming and name-calling. Using criticism, verbal threats, social isolation, intimidation or exploitation to dominate another person. Criminal harassment or “stalking” may include threatening a person or their loved ones, damaging their possessions, or harming their pets.[50]<\/a><\/p>\n Harassment in the workplace:<\/strong> Any conduct based on age, disability, HIV status, sex, sexual orientation and other factors that is unreciprocated and unwanted and affects the dignity of men and women at work.<\/p>\n Incest:<\/strong> Any sexual behavior imposed on the child by a family member, including extended family members such as teachers or clergy. Sexual contacts may include a variety of verbal and\/or physical behaviors; penetration is not necessary for the experience to count as incest. [11]<\/a><\/p>\n Intimate sexual violence:<\/strong> Physical, sexual, or psychological harm by a current or former partner or spouse. This type of violence can occur among heterosexual or same-sex couples and does not require sexual intimacy.<\/p>\n Invitation to sexual touching:<\/strong> For a sexual purpose, inviting, counseling or inciting a person under the age of 16 years to touch, directly or indirectly, with a part of the body or with an object, the body of any person, including the body of the person who so invites.<\/p>\n Non-consensual sharing of intimate images<\/strong>: The distribution of intimate images to third parties without the consent of the person shown in the image. [89]<\/a> Images are often distributed as a form of revenge against a former partner, and may have been taken without the victim’s knowledge or consent, or may have been shared consensually in the context of a former intimate relationship with the expectation that such images would be kept private.<\/p>\n Non-contact unwanted sexual experience<\/strong>: Unwanted experiences that do not involve any touching or penetration, including someone exposing their sexual body parts, flashing, or masturbating in front of the victim, someone making a victim show his or her body parts, someone making a victim look at or participate in sexual photos or movies, or someone harassing the victim in a public place in a way that made the victim feel unsafe. [65]<\/a><\/p>\n Partner assault: <\/strong>When a woman is repeatedly subjected to ANY type of intimidation by a husband, boyfriend or ex-lover. The purpose is to control her behaviour by putting her in a state of fear.[3]<\/a><\/p>\n Physical abuse: <\/strong>The intentional infliction of pain or injury by: Slapping, shoving, punching kicking, burning, stabbing and\/or shooting, poisoning. “Caring” in an abusive way including giving too much medication, keeping confined, neglecting or withholding care, <\/strong>Using a weapon or other objects to threaten, hurt or kill. <\/strong>Sleep deprivation \u2013 waking a woman with relentless verbal abuse. [22]<\/a><\/p>\n Psychological and emotional abuse:<\/strong> The use of systemic tactics and behaviour intended to control, humiliate, intimidate, instill fear or diminish a person\u2019s sense of self-worth, including: Verbal aggression. Forcibly confining a woman. Stalking\/harassment. Deliberately threatening behaviours (e.g., speeding through traffic or playing with weapons). Threatening to harm or kill children, other family members, pets or prized possessions. Threatening to remove, hide or prevent access to children, or threatening to report the woman to authorities. Threatening to put the woman in an institution. Threatening to commit suicide\/attempting suicide. Controlling a woman\u2019s time, actions, dress, hairstyle, etc. Denying affection or personal care. Taking away a woman\u2019s teletype writer (TTY), medication, hearing aids or guide dog. Belittling a woman through name calling or descriptions such as ” stupid”, ” crazy” or “irrational”. Accusing a woman of cheating or being promiscuous. Leaving a woman without transportation or any means of communication. [22]<\/a><\/p>\n Revenge porn: <\/strong>When a former partner posts images or videos created while the relationship was still intact or that were shared by a partner for private use in order to “get revenge”. [89]<\/a> This can also include images or videos captured during incidents of sexual assault, recordings made with a hidden camera, or images stolen from personal computers.<\/p>\n Sexual coercion:<\/strong> Unwanted sexual penetration that occurs after a person is pressured in a nonphysical way. Sexual coercion refers to unwanted vaginal, oral, or anal sex after being pressured in ways that included being worn down by someone who repeatedly asked for sex or showed they were unhappy; feeling pressured by being lied to, being told promises that were untrue, having someone threaten to end a relationship or spread rumors; and sexual pressure due to someone using their influence or authority. [66]<\/a><\/p>\n Sexual interference:<\/strong> For a sexual purpose, touching, directly or indirectly, with a part of the body or with an object, any part of the body of a person under the age of 16 years. [76]<\/a><\/p>\n Sexual solicitation or advance:<\/strong> A person suggests that if you become sexually involved with him or her, he or she will give you a better grade or some other type of incentive. [17]<\/a><\/p>\n